Godly Men

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I think there are a great number of shortfalls in the characters of American men. But first I’m going to try to define what a Godly man should look like. And I’m going to be honest and not use myself as an example. Perhaps if I was 20 with what I know now , instead of 75, there might have been time for me to mature while my sons were growing up.

Arrested Maturity

But this is the case in America where too many men have arrested maturity. And the best examples that I see as a contrast are the mature 20 year old men. Social media, computer games, pornography, drugs, and alchohol are some of the reasons for this. Attitudes that sex and sports make a man falsely suggests that these make a man.

I’m also reminded that I’m a Bible thumper and insist that people outside of the Chrisitian faith need to follow what I say. I’ve also been told by more enlightened people that I need to grow up and stop trying to convince anyone that Christianity is factual and the Bible is true to history in its entirety. All of this is a distraction that seemingly negates the examples of mature Godly men.

And unfortunately these negative attitudes are in the church. First of all are the live-in couples that have no reservations about the acceptibility of their life style. I’ve seen movies and have met men whom are stigmatized for being virgins. I even had a preacher in a liberal church tell me that Mary, mother of Jesus, was not a virgin. In my church our seminaries teach theistic evolution.

The mature Christian men in my church believe in the Creation narrative. They are the spiritual leaders in their homes. They put family first. They do benevolent work. They are well versed in the Bible, are capable to lead Small Groups, and can manage projects within the church. The only catch with this scenario is they are a minority among the families in our church.

Mature in Christ

A Godly man is a leader in his home and in his church. He takes personal responsibility for the decisions he makes and tasks that are needed for his house and cars. He holds himself accountable for the spiritual, financial, emotional, and physical health of his family. He confides in his wife for her point of view and her intuition. He understands that he alone in the family unit is accountable to God for the family. I will also add that he understands that “love” is spelled T-I-M-E.

(Ephesians 5:24-29 WEB) 24Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so [let] wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing. 25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives, as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife, loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

This passage is meant primarily for the man. The wife is to be subject to the man as the church is to Jesus Christ. And the man is to be the gatekeeper to his home. He is to give his life defending the home. He is to love his wife and children as much as and ultimately more than his own body.

Soldier’s Discipline

In a sense the Godly man must be disciplined like a soldier. The weapons are spiritual rather than literal. A good soldier is dedicated to the defense of the Kingdom. And in this case the man is the knight who’s responsible for the estate, namely family, that God has given him.

And the Godly man will make the safety and nourishment of his family the top priority in his life. He will not be involved in worldly pleasures, namely vices, that distract him from his mission.

(2 Timothy 2:3-4 WEB) 3Thou therefore endure hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. 4No man that warreth entangleth himself with the affairs of [this] life; that he may please him who hath chosen him to be a soldier.

A former preacher at my church had a family with two sons and two daughters. He made sure his family was his first priority. Subsequently all four children are in ministry, the daughters being married to preachers, and the sons being preachers. This is quite a contrast to the families of most preachers, where the preachers have not made their family their top priority.

The most comprehensive scripture on what spiritual war is like, is in Ephesians 6.

(Ephesians 6:13-17 WEB) 13Wherefore take to you the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. 14Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breast-plate of righteousness; 15And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16Above all, taking the shield of faith, with which ye will be able to extinguish all the fiery darts of the wicked. 17And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:

The attributes of truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and Bible knowledge are indispensable for a man of God to protect his family and his church. But the key is salvation. And salvation can’t be won without sincere humility. It would end up being a two-legged stool. Something that needs something else to hold it up and unable to hold its weight when pressures come.


A skill in using these weapons is what makes the soldier effective. And scripture plus prayer teaches these skills.

(Ephesians 6:18 WEB) Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching for this purpose with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

(Jeremiah 29:13 WEB) And ye shall seek me, and find [me], when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

Nothing is more effective than prayer to know God’s will and direction in life and for the day. And even more important is to know the prersence of God. Seek diligently for Him. And when it seems like we’re praying to the ceiling – remember – God has been, still is, and always will be near to us.

Remember that God is our first love. God’s love is perfect. Pray that we can become more dedicated to God and be able to stand up to the evil forces that come against us, our families, and God’s church..


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