One Body or Two?

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Abortion is the most divisive issue in our country and in politics. On both sides of the issue is the same – the rights of the living. But who is the living? It’s really this question that people argue. I’ll add that there’s also a real problem with the cost of unplanned pregnancies. The government closes the door to abortion for people on government aid. And the church or it’s members do not help people who can’t afford a child without assistance.

wayocross Thinking Out Loud

JW grew up on a farm in a rural area with a village of 700-900 people in the center of our township. We belonged to a Second Congregational (formerly Puritan) church until a merger when we became a United Church of Christ church. The other church in town was Roman Catholic. Our church was already liberal and now was more so.

But even without the liberal orientation of our church the prevalent protestant view was that if a pregnant woman was in danger from her pregnancy it was better to abort the fetus and save the mother’s life. The Catholic church has opposed abortion all along.

Two things changed this view for conservative church’s after I became an adult and had graduated from college, got married, had a successful career, and about ten years before I retired.

United States Pro Life Movement

When I volunteered at a crisis pregnancy center I explained the historical understanding of the issue and my current understanding. And I emphasized my empathy for either side. My role as a facilitator was simply to guide the men I worked with through curriculum that taught them how  a father cares for the child that’s still in the “oven.

One very important thing I learned through experience was how many ways an unplanned pregnancy could occur. Of course biologically there is only one way. But I was always troubled about people failing to look ahead at possible consequences and an unplanned pregnancy – but the fact was they were already ill-equipped for the current relationship they were in. 

Decisions that come out of these situations are often no more practical or thoughtful then the decisions that were already made (or fell into?). It’s at this point where I raise the question about abortion. A decision that rarely receives the reasoned thinking that is necessary for a better outcome. 

The Ground Rule

The debate about abortion revolves around two issues. First is whether the fetus is part of the mother’s body and the second is whether liberals or conservatives are more compassionate.

I share a particular view but I’m not going to vilify the other side. Links I’ve included (which are not mine) will present both sides of the discussion (not a debate). Also I believe both sides have sincere convictions.

But on such an important issue it requires us to have an informed opinion of our own. What friends or family say is insufficient for creating any kind of public discourse.

Truth or Fiction

When the woman says it’s my body is she correct? Here are two different articles with obviously contradicting opinions. Can you see any fallacies in either point of view?

When the embryo implants in the lining of the uterus, it emits chemical substances which weaken the woman’s immune system within the uterus so that this tiny “foreign” body is not rejected by the woman’s body. Were this tiny embryo simply “part of the woman’s body” there would be no need to locally disable the woman’s immune system.

Noam Chomsky, the most cited academic in the world, said that an unborn baby is “an organ” and a part of the mother’s “own body” during a recent guest lecture at an Irish college. “There is a current debate regarding a woman’s right to control her own body”

Opposing Views

You can see I’ve put the issue of compassion outside of Democratic or Republican politics.
Lowen, Linda. “Key Arguments From Both Sides of the Abortion Debate.” ThoughtCo, Jan. 23, 2020,

I couldn’t resist using the picture below since it shows pro-choice and pro-life protestors intermixed. I think this must before President Trump. We’re too divided and caustic today for a scene like this to ever occur.

Protesters at Entrance to Abortion Clinic

I also know the American public is majority pro-life and open to abortion at the same time. Compassionate people can see something in both sides. But I don’t think that foresight is a part of the process. Rather it’s the stress of the moment when unplanned or risky pregnancies come along. Statistically the family or boyfriend makes the decision to abort more often than the woman.

The issue of the child itself and trust in the future of the situation should be considered most. What would make the decisions easier if there was non-judgemental support that was real. Often the deciding circumstance is that there is not support. For the young woman I would point out that a boyfriend with income would be a good idea to start with. In fact, recognition of sexual activity through contemplation of the consequences of an unplanned pregnancy would help forestall a crisis for everyone.

Poor reasons for Abortion

Compassion starts with listening. Listening should start with the young child at home and be available when wrong decisions leading to unplanned pregnancies occur. To my mind that includes knowing not to put an unborn child into risky circumstances. Between lack of planning and rape and incense many babies are not wanted. For all the debate – shouldn’t the discussion about what to avoid precede the unplanned pregnancy?

Isn’t listening a part of a two-way conversation? Sexuality is not just a recreational activity. It has potentially life-changing implications. In truth, sex before marriage (and income) have life-changing implications. It’s at this point I must confess my Biblical Christian orientation.

I cannot delay any longer… side-stepping what I believe is the clearest picture of compassion for these issues. The Christian faith holds the key is to make “unplanned pregnancies” “planned” and relationships lasting, supportive, and financially stable. Compassion says we will not engage in any activity that is a direct threat to the relationship and the nurture and wellbeing of any possible offspring.

When I see people deciding for abortion because of family convenience I cringe. I cringe even more when a woman refuses adoption saying “I couldn’t do that to my child” and then aborts the baby. Some of the men I was facilitating who weren’t working told me they purposely got their girlfriend pregnant – continuing their irresponsible behavior.

I have met young women who had gotten pregnant through rape or incense suffer trauma over a family decision to abort even while the young lady wanted the baby. Even some men who were powerless to effect their girlfriend’s abortion had similar trauma to the women forced to abort.

Valid Reasons for Abortion

There are several acceptable reasons for abortions per that are historic or new to the economic stresses government or churches don’t address. Lowen, Linda. “Why Women Choose to Have an Abortion.” ThoughtCo, Aug. 22, 2019,

Most of the reasons above share a view that I believe most Americans agree with. Conservative legislation to deny abortion in these cases will face stiff or impossible opposition. These views are also held historically.

One that’s not on the list is the out-of-wedlock pregnancy and embarrassment to the family. Especially for political figures this situation is an encumbrance to their electability. But outside of the legislation that they’ve passed against government assistance to the poor, the politician’s station gives them access to even partial birth abortions by going out of the country.  

But… I don’t see anything on WEBMD’s list justifying Abortion since God can handle any of these situations. Of course a confident Christian trusts God to help. And the home church needs to support and not judge. This is where the church needs to come in.

There is so much unstated but open to our imagination as to the backgrounds of the situations listed by WEBMD. The church has the answer for them all. And that answer is that each life is precious for however long God decides to leave them in our midst. Very seldom is anything other than joy experienced by the couples who come forward to offer a home to their child or someone else’s child whose parents were not ready to love the child.

Did You Pray?

All of us have had varying experiences in this area. All of us are going to have different views on what compassion looks like.

But wayocross is always going to ask – DID YOU PRAY?

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