Now the obvious problem though is getting men’s attention in the first place. Women and children are easier to invite to church and feel comfortable there. One of my goals was to find men that are not comfortable in church and create a process that disarms some of their objections and at the same time addressing some of the issues that cause men to shy away.
I see fewer men in church than women. And other than some of the leaders, not really leading at home; evidenced just by listening to their descriptions of their home and family. Church should be a place where men take the lead to bring their families there. I see men whom are involved in their children’s lives and who also maintain their own spiritual life by Bible Study, Prayer, Introspection, and giving first priority to God. They also recognize as much as they love their wives, they need to make sure their children witness that Mom has first place in Dad’s life.
Part of the Man in the Mirror Ministries (MitM – started by Patrick Morely) philosophy is to meet men where they’re at. It will start outside of the church until they’re comfortable with a number of men inside the church. It will need to minister to men involved in Children’s Sunday School, Junior Church, cooking, plastic canvas, cosmetology, etc. as well as NASCAR, hunting/fishing, NFL, MMA, woodworking, gardening, etc. – you get the picture. Basically we need to reach all sorts of men.
And then of course there are all different levels of spiritual maturity. This is why I have written previously of the need for two men to have time every week to plan, pray, mentor, and coordinate more than just one approach to reaching and growing men spiritually. As men we should be hanging out with and mentoring other men inside or outside of our church.
I recently ran across an article I wrote in March of 2014. It showed my heart for a men’s ministry. I urged as we got involved in our church’s emphasis on the family we needed to remember the most important element in a strong family is the father and husband. True there are strong women who also lead Christian families. But ministry in the family is meant to start with the husband. And the husband needs to realize he is to follow (Ephesians 5:25-26 NASB) 25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.
My reason for being so enthusiastic about Men’s Ministry for our church is the following statistic: “When the mother of the family is the first person to accept Christ, the rest of the family will convert 17% of the time. When a child is first, the family follows 31% of the time. However, when the father turns to Christ first, the family will follow him 93% of the time.” – Stand Firm, July 2000 (p. 3)
From someone wiser than I: “All over this country little children are reaching for fathers who aren’t there. I want to evangelize as many people as possible, but my number one job is to evangelize my children. If America is going to survive, it will be because husbands and fathers begin to put their families at the highest level of priorities and reserve something of their time, effort, and energy for leadership within their own homes.”Dr. James Dobson (Focus on the Family – syndicated radio broadcast)
What People Say
The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.Walt Disney
It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.J. K. Rowling
Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.Dr. Seuss